You’re interested in exploring anal play, and you’re not alone. Whether you’re among the 43% of men who’ve experienced giving anal sex or you’re curious about receiving it, there’s no shortage of interest in this intimate act. Regardless of your experience level, it’s always helpful to seek tips to enhance your next encounter. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor and LELO sex expert, provides expert advice on everything from positions to toys for both beginners and seasoned enthusiasts.
Getting Started 💘 Communication and Preparation
Before diving into anal play, it’s crucial to discuss your intentions with your partner. Ensure you’re both comfortable and interested in trying it-never pressure someone into it. Once both parties are on board, remember that patience is key. Vrangalova emphasizes the importance of taking things slowly and using plenty of lubrication, as the anus doesn’t self-lubricate.
Begin with gentle techniques such as rimming or lightly pressing the anal area. Progress to inserting a finger or a small butt plug, and gradually increase to two fingers or a larger toy. When the receiving partner feels ready, you can proceed with penetration.
Individual experiences vary greatly, with some finding it easy to accommodate penetration right away, while others may need more time. Adjust your approach based on comfort and communication with your partner.
Techniques and Positions
A common misconception is the need for rapid in-and-out movements, which may not be pleasurable for the receiving partner. Instead, consider inserting the penis or strap-on slightly and pausing to allow the sphincter to adjust before proceeding further. Consistent communication is vital throughout the process to ensure comfort and pleasure.
For beginners, some accessible positions include lying on the back, stomach, or being on all fours. Vrangalova notes that for some, being on top offers more control, though it might require more effort to relax physically.
Handling the Unexpected
Vrangalova reminds us that “accidents” can happen during anal play. If a little poop appears, respond with kindness and understanding. Ensure your partner knows it’s not a big deal and have paper towels handy for cleanup.
Advanced Techniques and Toys
Once you’re comfortable with the basics, explore more advanced techniques and positions. The Matterhorn position, where the receiving partner kneels and leans at a 45-degree angle, can offer a new experience.
Toys can significantly enhance the anal experience. For those with a vagina, using a vibrator on the clitoris during anal sex can increase pleasure and relaxation, potentially leading to an incredible orgasm. Double penetration with toys or a combination of a penis and a toy offers another level of experimentation.
For those seeking an even greater challenge, double anal penetration involves inserting both a penis and a toy into the anus. This can be achieved by gradually working up to larger toys or even a fist.
Recommended Toys
Dr. Vrangalova recommends exploring LELO toys to enhance your anal play. Experimenting with different toys can open up a world of possibilities for pleasure and satisfaction.