Real talk: During my first experience with a vibrator, I was clueless. I had a general idea of where to start, but I was unsure about the sensations I preferred, the appropriate intensity, and the purpose of all those pattern options. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

Due to the taboo nature of sex toys, many beginners find it challenging to choose a vibrator simply because they lack knowledge on how to use one. Plus, most vibrators don’t come with detailed instructions, which is why Women’s Health consulted sex therapists and the women who design these toys for a straightforward guide to vibrators.

Discover how to use various vibrators-bullets, wands, and the iconic vibe from Sex and the City-and what to consider when shopping for one. Ready for the good vibes? Let’s dive in.

Exploring Clitoral Vibrators

A wide array of toys caters to clitoral stimulation, including bullet vibrators, suction vibrators, and wands. This is significant because about 40 percent of women reportedly cannot orgasm from penetration alone, according to a Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy study. To bridge the orgasm gap, individuals with vaginas can apply these vibrators directly to the clitoris or surrounding vulva for clitoral orgasms or during penetrative sex for a blended orgasm.

These toys can also stimulate other sensitive areas-not just the genitals. Palm vibrators or air/suction toys can enhance nipple sensations, while wand vibrators double as effective back massagers.

Bullet Vibrators

These compact vibrators come in various shapes, often resembling finger-sized bullets or lipstick. Any discreet vibrator that fits in your hand can be considered a bullet. These small yet powerful toys are great for beginners, says certified sex educator Gigi Engle.

Bullets typically offer fewer vibration settings than larger toys but are less intimidating. As Shamyra Howard, LCSW, AASECT-certified sex therapist, notes, they are often more affordable. To use, place the tip on your clitoris and experiment with different vibration levels and patterns. If it’s too intense, move the tip away for indirect sensation, or circle the vulva before focusing on the clit.

These small toys can easily be incorporated into penetrative sex. Either partner can hold the bullet on the clit while the other penetrates. A from-behind position, like doggy style, works well as it allows easier access. Never insert a bullet vibrator internally due to its small size, which can make removal difficult.

Wand Vibrators

Popularized by the Magic Wand, these vibrators are designed for clitoral stimulation. Their large head makes placement easy, providing strong, rumbly vibrations that can lead to orgasm. Wands differ from bullets in vibration type and intensity; their strong motors can make the lowest setting feel as intense as a bullet’s highest.

To use, start with the lowest setting and place the wand on your vulva. You can move it in circles, angle it differently, or use it on your inner thighs before returning to the vulva. Over clothes, wands offer a different texture and allow experimentation with higher power settings without overstimulation.

Wands are also suitable for partnered play. The long handle allows easy access to the clit or other erogenous zones, especially during non-penetrative sex. Avoid using wands in water unless they’re specifically waterproof.

Clitoral Suction Vibrators

Introduced by Womanizer, these vibrators use suction or air pressure to mimic oral sex. They deliver quick orgasms, making them increasingly popular. Place the suction head on your clit and adjust the intensity. Use lube to replicate the moisture of oral sex and ensure proper placement. While great for solo use, they can be tricky during penetrative sex due to movement.

Exploring Internal Vibrators

If penetration is your preference, internal vibrators, especially G-spot vibrators, offer satisfying experiences. Some feature a curve for G-spot targeting, while others offer varying designs. Vibrators with a flared base, like butt plugs and prostate massagers, provide anal stimulation. Use caution with non-flared toys to avoid accidents.

G-spot vibrators, often shown in media, are designed for internal use. They come in various sizes, so start small if unsure. Use lube for easier insertion and aim the curved tip towards the belly button for optimal stimulation.

Dual Stimulation Vibrators

Dual stimulation toys, like rabbit vibrators, offer internal and external pleasure. These typically have an insertable arm and an external clitoral stimulator, often resembling bunny ears. Some incorporate suction technology for enhanced sensations, combining the feeling of penetrative and oral sex.

Enhance Your Experience

Here are some expert tips to elevate your vibrator use:

• Practice edging: Delay orgasm by trying new vibration patterns for a more intense climax.
• Experiment with different positions: Lie face down and move your hips for varied sensations.
• Masturbate together: Learn from your partner’s techniques by observing them.
• Introduce anal play: Use a vibrator around the anus for tingling sensations.
• Try double penetration: Combine a G-spot vibrator with other toys or a partner for fuller experiences.
• Ensure water safety: Verify if your toy is waterproof before using it in the shower or bath.
• Use lube wisely: Opt for oil-based or silicone-based lubricants in wet environments.
• Repurpose for massage: Vibrators can also relieve sore muscles or menstrual cramps.

Understanding your body and exploring different sensations can make your vibrator experience more enjoyable and fulfilling.